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My friend Jan is discussing the Santa debate on her blog this week. She asked me to join in and since I already have a post written regarding that topic, I directed people to my own blog to read my opinion. Wasn’t that nice of me? 😀 So, If you’re here from Jan’s blog, or IF you care at all what I think about Santa, then click here to read that post. I will say that I wrote it last year and as our children grow, our holiday traditions evolve and change. This year is going pretty much as we’ve been celebrating the past few years. We’ve already talked about next year looking a little different.

Back to the discussion at hand here on MY Journey. I’m pleased with the responses so far regarding the questions I asked in my last post. I shared them so we could discuss not only what I’ve been thinking about, but to make you think as well. I’ve already said that, but there are still a few that think they need to take this opportunity to lead me to the “right” answers. That’s not where I’m going with this discussion. Even I am not trying to lead you to the “right” answers. Yours may be different than mine. I’d like to keep the discussion going. And let me just jump ahead of a few of you here. Based on previous comments, I know where you’re headed mentally and I’m NOT saying there are no absolutes when it comes to “right” answers. There certainly are. But the tension usually comes from discussing the gray areas.

I’ve been talking with God and I’m confident that I’m to stay on this path…asking questions. I’m going to see The Golden Compass tonight with my husband. I’m still reading books 2 & 3. I’ll be sharing my thoughts and observations as I finish each one. If you tire of the discussion surrounding the books and movies, my hope is that you’ll still stick around to dialog about the deeper issues that they bring up. I appreciate your comments and the wrestling through the faith discussion. Don’t feel you have to agree with me, but please do remain respectful. I’m glad you’re here, and thank you for your input.

I will also be blogging about other topics during this faith discussion. The dialog about TGC stuff is not my only focus. Life is happening all around me and I’m not just an observer, I’m a participant. Coming up next week: My review of the movie, a review of August Rush, where the Nowell family is at this holiday season, some really great song lyrics, and more discussion about tough faith questions. See you then!

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I’m still receiving “helpful” articles about The Golden Compass from friends far and wide. It appears some of my friends are concerned with my apparent lax on Christian virtues and beliefs and their being attacked by this “atheist heathen”. ~sigh~ I have had more scripture quoted at me in the past two weeks than I have in the last year. I’m talking directly at me – not while I sit in church. It’s hard not to want to throw my hands in the air and scream “give me a freaking break!” I’m trying to hold my tongue and reign in my emotions and come at this topic with probing eyes and not just spout off a bunch of pious platitudes.

I have questions…lots of questions. Deep faith questions that require exploration and examination of what I’ve read, been taught, always believed, and do not fully understand. The only thing this has to do with Pullman is that the controversy surrounding his books and the movie have catapulted me into a place of defining more clearly who I am and what I am about as a follower of Christ. I have begun to dislike using the word Christian to describe myself because it so often shuts down conversations with those who have been hurt by Christians. Part of who I am is being a woman that God has invited in to love on people who have been spit on by the world – including being spit on by Christians, and wounded Christians themselves. It makes me more careful with my choice of words. But it seems my choice of words is also getting me into trouble.

So the conversation continues…not because I want to get everyone on my side and think as I do, but because I still want to get you thinking. So these are some of my questions that I’ve been thinking about. I encourage you to ask yourself the same things. Don’t just give a flippant answer of what you’ve always thought and believed. Ask yourself why you would answer the way you would. Put some thought into it, then feel free to share a few of them here. Ready?

  1. What does it mean to be a follower of Christ?
  2. Does it mean that everyone who is has to have the same core beliefs? If so, what are they?
  3. What does it mean when we can’t agree on what the core beliefs are?
  4. Can two believers be convicted by different things?
  5. Can two believers be convicted by different things when the focus is on the same subject?
  6. How should I handle conflict when I disagree with another believer about a conviction?
  7. Can we still be friends, or have I just made an enemy or lost my witness with them?
  8. Is it my responsibility to make someone choose Christ?
  9. If someone hasn’t made that choice yet, what is my responsibility then?
  10. What does it mean that it takes some longer than others to make that choice – if they ever do?
  11. How should I treat someone that hasn’t or doesn’t want to choose Christ?
  12. How do I show compassion towards others?
  13. Can I choose to look for God and his message in all things?
  14. What do I do if I find Him in something not meant to be about Him?
  15. What do I do if I can’t find Him in something not meant to be about Him?
  16. What do I do if I can’t find Him in something meant to be about Him?
  17. What is the difference between dialog and debate?
  18. Is it my job to change people’s minds if they don’t agree with me?
  19. What is the proper way to handle being told I’m not really a Christian?
  20. Who is my enemy?
  21. What is judgment and how often am I guilty of doing it to others?
  22. What is the phrase, “causing your brother to stumble” really about?
  23. What is the meaning behind the scripture about whether or not it’s o.k. to eat meat sacrificed to idols?
  24. What is fantasy/fiction and is it o.k.? (Fantasy as in characters and situations that don’t exist in our world)
  25. Is it o.k. to think about things through the lens of fantasy fiction that wouldn’t be o.k. in real life? (magic, ghosts, witches, etc)
  26. What does it mean to explore life, human nature, spirituality, and how they are intertwined?
  27. If I’m displeasing to another believer does that mean I’m displeasing to God?
  28. Is it o.k. to have questions about and struggle with faith?
  29. What kind of spirit did God give me and why?
  30. Are my sins covered by Jesus’ blood or not?
  31. Can they be uncovered once they’ve been covered ?
  32. What does it mean to work out my salvation with fear and trembling?
  33. What do I look like to other believers?
  34. What do I look like to unbelievers?
  35. Am I loving as Jesus loved?
  36. Do I have the right or responsibility to rebuke the pharisees around me?
  37. Is that a form of judgment?
  38. Why is it important to me to dialog with other believers?
  39. Am I surface or am I deep?
  40. What am I doing to bring the kingdom of God to those around me?

~deep breath~

That’s a lot, I know. I had a good cry on Saturday while mulling these things over and talking to Benny. Both always make me feel better. Talk about releasing emotion! O.K. play along…it’s your turn.

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If you would like to read the first part of this discussion, click here. As I said I would, I recently finished reading the first book in the series His Dark Materials, by Philip Pullman. The movie version of The Golden Compass will be released in U.S. theaters this coming Friday. I’m going to see it sometime in the next few weeks. I’ve already begun reading book 2, The Subtle Knife. My plan is to give a short review (yes, I’m capable of that) as I finish each one.

I was going to give a synopsis of the book, but you can read that for yourself at a number of places on the web. Google is an amazing thing. I think what you really want to know, if you’re a friend or were part of the previous discussion here, is whether or not I give the book a thumbs up or down and why. So here’s my answer with an explanation based on my reading of the first book in the trilogy.

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I give the first book a thumbs up…for teens or older. In my opinion, this book is not for children. Where I don’t believe this book is the evil thing many Christians are making it out to be, I do think there are too many dark elements to the story that could be damaging to little minds not ready to be challenged in that way. It is clearly fantasy fiction and I don’t think it is teaching young kids to be atheists. My children are simply too young to read it. The language alone would be difficult for kids to comprehend. What child do you know that uses words like “sardonic” or would know what “Tokay” is? Yes, mine are way too young. That is my call as their parent. When they are older and ready to have real and serious discussions about the subjects raised in this book, maybe we’ll read it together and discuss it. I’m all for that. Until then I will have to endure their disappointment and comments about how cool the movie trailer looks and how badly they want to see it. We’ve already done that for Harry Potter, so they should be used to it by now. Age appropriateness is important to me, as well as content. It’s more important than any marketing campaign trying to win people over to one side or another. One Amazon.com reviewer spoke it eloquently when they said, “Nothing will shape a child’s philosophy more strongly than their upbringing.”

So here are my thoughts on what I liked:

The concept of the daemon. Though I don’t like the word he chose, it’s probably fitting in the “companion” sense. I find it intriguing that in this story, every human has an animal version of themselves as a constant companion. The daemon represents characteristics of the person it is attached to. It can change shapes until the person (child) reaches puberty then takes on a single form. You can tell a lot about a person based solely on their daemon. For example, Asriel’s daemon is a snow leopard -attractive, powerful, confident, strong, and and a little dangerous -just like Asriel himself. It reminds me of growing up and trying to figure out who I was and what parts of me I wanted to develop and what parts I wanted to forget about, or change. Don’t I still do that? When I was young I was less sure of myself and more willing to reinvent myself than I am now as an adult and a little set in my ways. For all of you wondering, the daemons in the book are not the same as demons in the Bible.

The alethiometer. How cool would it be to have a device that tells you the truth about the past and the future, about people and their intentions, and about yourself? The mystery surrounding why Lyra has the alethiometer and what course it will bring about in her life is half of why I liked this book. There are layers upon layers of meanings and the fact that Lyra learns to understand it when most of the adults in her world won’t even try without the owner’s manual, is intriguing to me. Again, it reminds me how as a child I was willing to believe, try, and work at something with a lot more determination than I have now. That seems backwards, but it’s true.  The “golden compass” works by “dust” which is the conciousness, and culminated experiences of a person, which could explain why there is more on adults than on children.  It’s quite the mystery.  I think the original sin mentioned so often by critics in regards to this dust could be compared to the point at which Adam and Eve realized they were naked and clothed themselves.  Not the actual sin of disobeying God as mentioned in the Bible’s creation story.

Though many of the adults in this story were out to get Lyra for their own personal gain, there were equally as many out to help her on her journey. My first favorite ones, the Gyptians, displayed so well the concept of family. I also liked the intertwining of different clans and species all centered on rescuing missing children and aiding Lyra the best they could with her own mission. I thought there were good lessons on teaching kids discernment in learning who you can and can’t trust. Not everyone who says they’re your friend is, and not everyone you fear is your enemy.

Second chances. I loved that Lyra reminds Iorek who he is deep down and who he was meant to be. She provides him with a way out of his current circumstances and a return to his true life, and in return gains a loyal friend which comes in VERY handy later on in the story.

The message of believing in something bigger than yourself and playing your part, completing your role in it all through difficulties, betrayals, and other setbacks and pains.

The distrust of a corrupt organization who was power-hungry and ignorant of some of the happenings under their own direction and control. They sought to manipulate and destroy all who believed differently than they did. I don’t believe it was representative of Christianity as we know it today, but of a corrupt church from ages past. Regardless of the author’s personal beliefs, I didn’t find that it was a church-bashing fest and a railing against religion in general.

What I disliked:

Some of the subject matter. I have a hard time with a story line about children being abducted for horrible, painful experiments. Many of those who were targeted for abduction were poor and thought to be “not as missed” from society. Who would miss a street kid, right? Despite their own involvement in these experiments, Lyra’s “parents” are horrified when they realize she has somehow become part of the target audience. There’s a double standard that it is o.k. for certain children, but certainly not their own.

Parents who are deceitful and would use their children for their own gain. Parents who are abusive and neglectful and don’t know how to parent at all. The flip side being that having parents like this isn’t the end of the world. Though it leads to great confusion and heartache, there are those who will love you and pull you through, teaching you the lessons your parents couldn’t or wouldn’t teach you themselves.

Lyra’s most useful skill is lying. With her parents being who they are, it’s no wonder she’s so good at it. It gets her out of many scrapes, and even saves her life. I just didn’t like it being offered as a useful trait and a good and safe option.

The misuse of power by the “church”, which I’ve already stated is not representative of Christianity in general as we know it today, although there may be churches out there like that. I don’t know. I think one of the best descriptions of the church in the book was given by my friend Deb when she said, “…the church in the books has almost nothing to distinguish it from the illustrious history of the Roman Catholic Church. Note that I didn’t say Christianity. My mental image of The Church of the books was oh.. the Catholic Church (governing body, not the ordinary average person) during the life of Galileo…it does bring into conversation religious issues. For those of you who are Christian, this series *might* be a useful one with older children, to read and talk about religion. Things like- what is the simple message of Christ? Do the religious leaders in the books exemplify that? In the real world, can you think of people or groups of people who are examples of Christ’s message, and ones who are like the Church in Pullman’s books?” To read the rest of her comment, please refer to the previous post.

Overall, I thought this was a good fantasy story filled with people and creatures working together on opposing sides: good vs. evil. It’s an age old theme and this story kept tipping the scale back and forth as to who was winning the battle. Which brings me back to the movie. I’m going to go see it even though I’ll probably be disappointed with it since I’ve read the book. The movie has a PG-13 rating, and though I sometimes doubt our current rating system, in this case I agree with it.

I will post my thoughts on the movie and the other two books after I’ve experienced them. In the meantime, let’s hear your thoughts…

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I have quite an extensive collection of quotes by various famous people, my favorite authors, and my quirky friends. When I was in college, it was “the thing to do” to hang quotes on your dorm room door. Even then I was surrounded by friends who loved the written word as much as I did. I decided to share a few of my favorite quotes of late. Enjoy!

“In the confrontation between the stream and the rock, the stream always wins – not by strength but by perseverance.” ~H. Jackson Brown

“Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already mastered, you will never grow.” ~Ronald E. Osborn

“Music washes away from the soul the dust of everyday life.” ~Berthold Auerbach

“Reading furnishes the mind only with material for knowledge; it is thinking that makes what we read ours.” ~John Locke

“It is our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” ~J.K. Rowling

“If you make people think they’re thinking, they’ll love you; But if you really make them think, they’ll hate you. ~Don Marquis

“But to become a freak one needs a strong character and unusual determination.” ~George Burchett, Memoirs of a Tattooist.

“The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.” ~Elbert Hubbard

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My friend Zack showed me this video today. He was looking at it in the context of the health-care system here in America, which fits and is a good discussion for another day. But my first thought was that it was a good visual example of who we are and need to be as parents, friends, and a community of believers. The video is of a group of water buffalo who engage in a battle with lions and a crocodile to rescue a young waterbuffalo that has become prey. It is titled “Battle at Kruger”.

What a picture of life. There are lessons we can learn from this video. For example, we don’t have to go looking for trouble, it can easily find us on it’s own. I also thought how well this illustrated Bible passages like 1 Peter 5:8 which says, “Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour.”

Thinking about how this applies to my family and my life, I have a picture of all of the things out there that are a threat to my children. I have gone through periods of life where the threat wasn’t real even though I perceived it as such (imagine cardboard lions instead of the real ones), and I’ve lived the opposite where the threat didn’t seem as great as it actually was. In those situations, underestimation can kill you. There have also been times that I walked into threatening situations with my kids in tow, maybe not realizing the dangers that awaited me (not only were there lions, but a hungry croc as well). So what’s an anxious momma waterbuffalo to do? She went and got back-up. Along comes the whole herd to help her rescue her baby. “It takes a village” and “Safety in numbers” worked in her favor this time and the result was one hurt but alive baby and lions being tossed in the air and chased off by the mob. Calling in reinforcements saved that baby buffalo’s life – as far as we know.

It’s a good plan. It’s what I feel some of my friends were trying to do for me when they sent the warning email about The Golden Compass movie. (I received another email about it today.) What I hope I conveyed with my post on that subject is that sometimes the mob mentality backfires and causes more damage than needed. Sometimes the mob thinks it is protecting the young and attacking the enemy when in actuality there might not be a real threat. But what if there is – like in this video? Shouldn’t we be ready for it and willing to fight it? But what if what I perceive as a threat, you find harmless? What then?

We have a responsibility to protect our children. We are the filters for what they watch and learn while they’re young. It is through our guidance and direction that they learn what is appropriate and acceptable and what is not. We raise our children reflecting our own values and morals. And there in lies the problem. While there is certainly a standard moral code (ie. don’t bring harm to others), beyond that morals and values vary from family to family. For example, our family highly values stories about superheroes, our kids all have their own capes and I don’t limit where they can wear them – other than while they’re in bed for safety reasons. We talk about what makes the characters super, their powers and their frailties, and how they deal with both. We even have a superhero family name – The Fantastic Five. We loved watching “Who Wants To Be A Superhero?” on T.V. Then there is my friend *Kathy. That’s not her real name – I’m covering my butt. Her family does not watch superhero shows, she doesn’t like superhero costumes, she thinks that kids can pick up some pretty bad habits from watching superhero stuff, and basically finds all of the hoopla annoying. They are a wonderful Christian family without the superhero influence. We are Christian family with it. Is either of us “wrong”? I don’t think so. It’s a matter of us both training up our kids the best way we know how with our own values in mind. Which brings me to my next point…

Though our love for all things superhero runs deep, there are things in that genre that are not appropriate for our kids at their current ages. We don’t let them have access to certain superhero movies and shows, and won’t until we think they can handle it mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Kids can’t handle the same things adults can. You’ve heard me rant on this topic before when I witnessed frightened children with their careless parents at the theater watching PG-13 and R-rated movies.

Marketing companies hack me off by spending millions of dollars selling teen or adult movie merchandise to small children. It makes me a bit crazy. We drew the line with the superhero movies like Superman Returns, the Spiderman trilogy, Elektra, X-men, etc.  Those movies are not intended for a young audience, but were entertaining for older teens and adults. All of the buzz surrounding The Golden Compass may be a case of just that. From where I’m at in the book, I would not read it to my children until they’re older. At 8, 5, and 3 they aren’t ready for the mature situations I’m reading about. I understand the caution being taken by concerned parents. I may have friends that choose differently than I do. I’ll still love them and be their friend if they do.

So back to the video…I thought that baby was done for. When I saw the herd of buffalo arrive for the showdown, I thought at the very least they would run again and at the most they would recover a dead calf. The lady on the video kept saying, “They’re too late, they’re too late”. It was amazing to see the calf stand up and try to get away – which it did. We can be like that herd of buffalo and come to the aid of our fellow buffalo. It’s necessary to know what the danger is ahead of time and have a plan. They ran the lions off one at a time – not as a group. There was no need to run the crocodile off because he wasn’t a real threat. We need to know who we’re fighting and what we’re fighting for.

We need to take responsibility for our kids and be proactive not by boycotting, but by talking it out and walking our walk and setting the example yet letting others have the freedom to choose their own actions.  We need to know when to call for reinforcements and when to avoid the watering hole all together.  We also need to rally with the herd to rescue the kiddos in our community when they’re in danger.  That could be the start of another post about our ministry…;)

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